Marry you at 30?

At some point in our lives, we've all made or at least considered the "if we aren't married by the time we are 30 we'll marry each other" promise with a friend. But who actually takes advantage of something like that? You make a promise with someone that you knew 10 years ago, and the reality of it is that A LOT changes in 10 years. What are the chances that you still keep in touch with and more importantly is still attracted to the the "promise partner" of the future? I mean if you can in fact actually see yourself with that person forever, if so why haven't you hooked up with them yet? Would you really be able to be in a relationship knowing that it happened just because it was a promise that you made when you were 18? Everyone is always on a quest for "their soul mate" and 'true love" so what if you marry someone because of the promise and then meet your "soul mate" the year later? What do you do? Is there anyone that actually takes advantage of the "marry you at 30 promise? So to anyone that I may have made this promise with, I'm sorry but I take it back and we should both continue our searches alone. Who knows if its meant to be our paths may cross once again.

What's your type?

We all think we have our ideal type of significant other. Whether its a personality, looks, job whatever it may be we have a preconceived notion of who we should be with. But if we are always trying to go after our ideal types and they aren't working out, do we really know that our ideal types are? Should we be a little more open to going outside of our comfort zone and then we may really see what our ideals are? Its easy to think that you know what you want based on the similarities and differences from past relationships and the reasons why things didn't work out in the past. For example, if you dated someone and then disputed about religion and finally broke up because of it you are more likely to not date someone outside of your religion with the fear that you'd go through the same type of break up again. I'm not saying that you should go entirely against your beliefs and morals, becaue that is the true core of a person, but think outside of the box. If you think you want a guy that has a 9-5 day job try dating someone that does freelance work and has a flexible schedule. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, at least you can say that you tried something new and you'll learn more about your self and what you can adapt to. Sometimes its true we don't know what we were missing until it arrives....at the same time...try everything once... twice if you like it.