(Less than) Desirable Attire

Now that the weather is warmer you see more and people wearing less, to say the least. Guys walking around topless, girls walking around with dresses that barely cover the essentials and others that you just sit and wonder... “what were they thinking?”. I understand that if you have the rock hard body of a Greek god or goddess you want to flaunt it, but with that come the stereotypes and impressions that you leave. There is a time and place to be “barely dressed” and it seems that not everyone is on the same page for this, so to sum it up it’s okay to be “barely dressed” at the beach, boat, pool and in the privacy of your own home but when you are socializing around families, hanging out with friends, in a public space (restaurant, festivals, bars, etc.), walking down the street… cover up! At first I thought it was just me that made this observation but after talking to some friends and strangers (both guys and girls) I realized that we all agreed, no matter where you rank on the “hotness” scale if you come off self-centered based on the way you are dressed people are less likely to approach you because there isn’t enough space for them and your ego in the equation. It’s funny how the girls that dress scantily wonder why they always get the guys that are looking for one night stands, if you are dressing the part what did you expect? Have respect for yourself in that you are more than just an object to look at, you are a person that has something to say with words not the way that you are dressed. Leave something to the imagination. As for the guys, while I appreciate you being eye candy and going topless, you pretty much come off being cocky, self-involved and egotistical. Even if you are a genuinely nice guy, it’s hard to look past that exterior image that you portray by going topless at inappropriate times. Most girls would agree that if picking between a topless hard body and a casually dressed average Joe to approach, average Joe would win on the sheer fact that he’s just more approachable and doesn’t have a stereotype that lingers with his attire, or lack of. All in all the reality of it is that we attract people based on the way we look and present ourselves, but we should do it with dignity and not let our attire (or lack of) hinder us from meeting quality people.