Guide to Love

There are more and more books, tv shows and movies that are “guides” to reading the opposite sex. Everyone thinks that they have the answer to find “true love” whatever that is. Do we really need a book, tv show or movie to tell us how to find our mates? So many other people have been able to find love without the help of “guide”. Does knowing how the opposite sex thinks and acts help or hinder us? Think about it, if you read a book that says guys like when girls wear mini-skirts and you go and wear a mini-skirt you really aren’t being yourself. More importantly you aren’t going to be comfortable and confident and that’s what a lot of underlying attraction stems from. If you aren’t being yourself you aren’t confident in who you are and this is reflected in your actions. Maybe the bigger issue is that people think that these books, tv shows and movies are going to solve their dating, relationship and love issues. If no two people are alike what makes you think that all guys or girls are going to be the same when it comes to relationships? Our experiences have gotten us to where we are and we’ve learned from them so since we don’t all go through the same things we can’t be thinking alike. I’m sure there are some basic truths to the “guides”, after all we know the guys and girls don’t have the same thought process, but remember that not everyone is going to act according to the guide. At the end of the day all you can do is be yourself and you’ll find what you are looking for when you least expect it… at least that’s what I think (hopefully its true).