Textual Tension

Texting... we all do it. But since when did texting become a replacement for a phone call? I've seen so many "relationships" start off as casual texts and then people wonder why they aren't talking on the phone. If you start off texting you can't expect to make the jump to phone conversations; you've already showed that you are okay with texting as communication. Text messaging should be used when you are pressed for time and can't have a conversation but just need a quick answer, such as "Meet you in 10 mins", 'Whats the intersection?", "Good luck with your interview", "What time is dinner?". Those are all brief statements and questions that require simple responses.
When you try to have a real conversation via text there is a lot of room for error and miscommunication in how a person interprets the message and the tone of it. Text messaging shouldn't be your only source of communication with people, but rather something in addition to your regular phone calls. Text messaging is an impersonal way of communicating... so think twice the next time you want to text someone you haven't talked to in a while.

Guide to Love

There are more and more books, tv shows and movies that are “guides” to reading the opposite sex. Everyone thinks that they have the answer to find “true love” whatever that is. Do we really need a book, tv show or movie to tell us how to find our mates? So many other people have been able to find love without the help of “guide”. Does knowing how the opposite sex thinks and acts help or hinder us? Think about it, if you read a book that says guys like when girls wear mini-skirts and you go and wear a mini-skirt you really aren’t being yourself. More importantly you aren’t going to be comfortable and confident and that’s what a lot of underlying attraction stems from. If you aren’t being yourself you aren’t confident in who you are and this is reflected in your actions. Maybe the bigger issue is that people think that these books, tv shows and movies are going to solve their dating, relationship and love issues. If no two people are alike what makes you think that all guys or girls are going to be the same when it comes to relationships? Our experiences have gotten us to where we are and we’ve learned from them so since we don’t all go through the same things we can’t be thinking alike. I’m sure there are some basic truths to the “guides”, after all we know the guys and girls don’t have the same thought process, but remember that not everyone is going to act according to the guide. At the end of the day all you can do is be yourself and you’ll find what you are looking for when you least expect it… at least that’s what I think (hopefully its true).

Music in my life

Most people that know me know that music is a big part of my life, I’m either listening to it on my computer or iPod at all times. The first thing I do when I get I the car is turn on music, I almost feel naked without a beat. These days while I’m walking around the city or at the gym, I wonder what other people are listening to. We all have iPods and mp3 players that store thousands of songs so what do people listen to? People are just happier and smiling with the headphones on and their head bopping to what they are listening to, regardless of what they are listening to. I wonder if the lady working out in my gym is listening to classical music or T.I. or if the punk rock girl on the EL is listening to U2 or Metric. I mean the beauty of the iPod and any personal system like that is that you can be listening to what ever you want and no one will ever know. Its just interesting to see how based on a person’s appearance we make the assumption on what they are listening to. Music can help people deal and feel emotions they normally may not, anger, sadness, happiness what ever it may be. It’s crazy that a simple thing as music is able to do so much for a person, get them out of a funk, verbalize their feelings, get someone excited, set the mood for an event… the examples are endless.

Are we legally stalking each other?

What's the big deal about Twitter? Do we really need another way to know what someone is doing? Aren't Facebook and Gtalk staus updates enough? In my days of doing nothing I decided to join Twitter to see what all the buzz was about... I don't quite understand the hype. I mean so you can see what people are doing, you can do that by stalking them on Facebook or here's a thought call them and ask them. Do we honestly need to know what are friends, family and celebrities are doing at all hours of the day? There are those that are obsessed with updating their status on all social network sites, I literally saw on girl that was essentially giving a play by play as she was going into labor. It went something like this.... (name has been changed)

Jane is feeling contractions (9:57 am)
Jane is getting her stuff together to go to the hospital and calling her hubby(10:30am)
Jane is waiting for her doctor (11:55am)
Jane is going into labor (1:45pm)
Jane is still in labor (5:30pm)
Jane is the mother of a baby girl (9:30pm)

Is it really necessary? What ever happened to keeping things private? Are Facebook, Gtalk and Twitter updates allowing us to legally stalk each other?

Casual Suit?

More and more companies are going casual as far as attire goes, so why do we still need to dress up in suits to interview? The other day I had an interview with a company to go unnamed and the receptionist was wearing jeans and an over-sized sweater, he had that Seth Rogan look going from Knocked Up. Then I met 2 ladies that were interviewing me, one was in a dress the other in black pants on a white t-shirt. The other 2 men that I happened to see in the office were wearing jeans and button-down shirts. So why ask me to come in a suit instead of just business attire (nice dress pants and a button-down shirt) when the rest of the employees are so casual? I can understand if the job would require me to wear a suit everyday, but this clearly wasn't the case. I mean when you interview me, aren't you supposed to be looking at my resume and my experience, not what I'm wearing? I wouldn't show up in jeans to interview, but honestly who is comfortable wearing a suit to begin with? Its constricting and you feel more stressed wearing that than normal business clothes.

The Waiting Game

The saying goes "Good things come to those who wait" but when should you come to the realization that you are wasting your time waiting? I mean I could sit around waiting for something to happen but I still need to do something to trigger something to happen. My current situation I need a job, but a job isn't going to appear out of thin air, I need to apply and network and do things before I can wait. I guess the saying would be too long if it was "Good things come to those who wait, but in the meantime make something happen".

Mirror mirror on the wall?

Do people see you as you see yourself in the mirror? OR as you see yourself when you look at yourself without a mirror? Example a girl puts on a skirt and a pair of heels and checks out the ensemble in the mirror, focusing on her legs. She then slightly bends to see what her legs look like without the mirror. Is she really seeing the same thing or is it just perception that makes it look different?

Random Thoughts

I've recently become unemployed and doing the job search and self-improvement (aka studying) thing, but I still have a lot of random thoughts and questions in my head. So I've started a blog in which I'd add a daily random thought that I've come across either from something I've read, seen, experienced or just something that popped in my head. I'll put the thought out there and let anyone that comes across the blog provide their feedback, which could turn into some "Pretty Good Advice". I'm open to any random thoughts you may have to offer and would like to post, think of it as a community project.

Remember there is no right or wrong, just a different approach to things...